rani
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Post by rani on Mar 21, 2018 19:42:45 GMT
My mom died a year and a half ago. My grandma, grandpa and uncle passed before her and my other grandma and grandpa and an aunt and another uncle passed since. I am so over whelmed with grief I cant function in every day Life. I can barely hold down a job and ive lost several friends family and soon to be my fiancee all because they dont want to deal with me and my depression any more. Ive done in patient therapy out patient therapy. I'm currently on meds. I just started a new job that I'm already screwing up. I dont know what to do any more and I cant afford any more help. Tomorrow is her birthday and no one understands how hard it is or why I'm so sad. She was my rock and my backbone and really the only person who really knew me. I miss her so much. Please help...
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Post by Cindy on Sept 28, 2019 1:15:22 GMT
I know how you are feeling, I lost 8 people in 10 years, the most recent was my mother 2 weeks ago. I have lost all 4 grandparents, both of my husbands parents my sisters father-in-law and now mom. I am only 38 and I feel like I have all this time left with so many people gone I wanted to share that time with. I don't have all the answers, but I do know this, the pain will not go away, because the love will not go away, but you can dull the pain with good times and the people you love who are here. You can't live in the past because it's too much sadness, so you have to move on to something that will make you happy, you need to set goals for yourself even if it's just a goal to get out of bed and make yourself breakfast, keep setting more and more goals until you have a reason and purpose. All those you have lost would not be happy to see you wasting the rest of your life. You need to live your best life, you need to be happy so that they can be at peace, you need to make yourself get out of bed every day with a goal, you can cry you can be said, but you also can be happy and you can heal, you just need to take it one step at a time. Let yourself smile, laugh love, you are here you have time they didn't don't wast it, if not for you, do it for them, because that is what they would want.
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